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Could perfectionism be the death of you?

This screenshot was taken on the 6th of August, 2020

I have never really thought much about perfectionism. I know that it’s a driving force behind quite a number of successful people in life but I have never really looked at the deeply disturbing side of it : “driving some people off the cliff.”

So, it is ubiquitously known that the mind is one of the most complex parts of the human being. Thoughts, personality, feelings, beliefs and behavior are all shaped by our invisible and incomprehensible minds. I believe that if a person’s idea of perfectionism is not constricted to a safe space (a space in which you can push yourself to reasonable and safe limits), one can easily fall into pits of despair as a result of failing to meet deadlines or accomplish certain goals with 100% success or precision.

Through research and general observation of people, I have come to the solid conclusion that perfectionism, if not confined to certain defined barriers, can destroy a person mentally, physically and emotionally.

Allow me to elaborate.

I had a friend who never left anything to chance. I mean ANYTHING. If she made a mistake while writing, she would tear out the whole page and start afresh. If she colored outside of the line by just a tenth of a millimetre, she would concede defeat and start again all the while frustrated and annoyed. Perfectionists, like my friend, will always go at it again and again, trial after trial, until they attain the “gold standard”.

Now someone might say, “Well, there’s nothing wrong with that. Aiming for quality work is not a bad thing at all.” Yes. That is true except for the fact that perfectionists, in my opinion, do not give themselves space to breathe or make mistakes and in being relentless and putting in all their effort into making or doing something perfectly, they end up wasting a lot of time and energy (especially mental energy).

Some people leave themselves no room for mistakes or mediocrity. Everything has to be “just perfect!”. As soon as things start to go off the rails, they trigger a domino effect which begins with beating themselves up mentally which then takes a toll on their emotional well-being and then compromises their physical health in the long run (most likely due to chronic stress)

That’s it for today. I’ll be back with more!

A disclaimer: This post was written based on my thoughts, experiences and conversations that I have had with people.

This post is subject to change in the future and if you have any other thoughts on this, feel free to comment.

Have a lovely day!

-Maame xoxo

08/08/20

Liebster Award

Hey Everyone!

I have been nominated by @herninjarella (https://justthoughtdotcom.wordpress.com/) for the Liebster award and I am so grateful! She is a “word bender” who writes amazing articles. She started WordPress roughly a month ago and is already a pro.

Rules:

1. Thank the Blogger who nominated you and provide a link to their blog
2. Answer the 11 questions given to you.
3. Nominate 11 other Bloggers.
4. Ask your nominees 11 questions.
5. Notify your nominees once you have uploaded your post.

  1. When and why did you start blogging? I began blogging a year ago but I didn’t intensify my efforts until June this year.
  2. Whom do you like the most in this world? Frankly speaking, I cannot choose one person.
  3. How do you motivate yourself during tough times? I pray and then I eat because food always makes me feel better.
  4. What is your favourite colour? Blue
  5. What is your first ambition? To go to heaven.
  6. Name any three friends in your life? I honestly cannot choose.
  7. What is your hobby? I love reading novels, articles and anything interesting; I love to watch Ted-Ed videos and I love researching as well.
  8. Which is your favorite quote? “Someone will always be prettier. Someone will always be smarter. Someone will always be younger. But they will never be you.” –Kanye West.
  9. Describe you in a word. Considerate.
  10. Which is your favourite movie? Like Stars on Earth.

My nominees;

You can all answer the same questions!

Have an amazing day!

-Maameeee 28/07/20

7 thoughts from me to you!

I think about a LOT OF THINGS. In fact, thinking is an everyday indulgence of mine. I think about what the future will look like; not only for myself, but for family and the world around me. I think about food as well just because, … food is good:).

I tend to have fleeting thoughts quite often. I ask myself questions that I already know the answers to and sometimes, I ask myself questions which I know can never be answered. Not in this time. Not ever. So, here are seven fleeting thoughts from me, to you!

If a meteorite with the potential to end all life forms or cause immense damage to our planet was to hurtle towards the earth, what would people really do? Would they do things they have always wanted to do but never really bothered to pursue? Get euthanized? Pray like never before? Go underground in bunkers made of titanium? A selective few shipped to Mars?

Has anyone ever read a book which left them in awe for days on end? Absolute awe? Because, that’s how I felt when I read “The Boy in The Striped Pyjamas”, “Purple Hibiscus”, “Angels and Demons”, and many other spellbinding books. Sometimes, I have to go back and read those books again and again because I absolutely loved, loved, loved them!

Have you ever wondered where birds go when it rains (I’m talking about torrential rain)? I mean, the first answer I can think of to address this question is that they seek shelter under hollow logs and sheds but can all the free-roaming birds in this world find shelter?

Whenever you try to remember something (a thought, an experience, a moment), do you envision your mind as a compartmentalized room with shelves holding boxes containing your thoughts and memories?

So, if poison expires, does it become ineffective or it becomes deadlier than it was?

What would happen if someone were to loose their helmet in space? That is going to instantly kill the person. Or….? I think that is one fear that I have whenever I think of astronauts in space. I really hope that never happens because it would be one of the most horrific deaths ever.

Where did all of the sand in the Sahara and other deserts come from? Was it there from the genesis of the Earth’s creation (or formation)? Is the original dirt or soil that covered that area of land still there? Where did it come from?

Well, I hope that you found this blog post to be amusing and intriguing. I’ll be back with more!

By: Maameee

11/07/20

Idiosyncrasies

“I tend to crack my knuckles when speaking to people I have just met.”

“She has a funny way of smacking her lips together when she is livid.”

“I used to smell library books as soon as I opened them.”

Have you ever wondered if there is a name for that peculiarity or mannerism about someone or yourself? Well, if the answer is “yes”, then its called an idiosyncrasy!

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, an idiosyncrasy is “a peculiarity of constitution or temperament an individualizing characteristic or quality”.

Idiosyncrasies are a tiny fraction of the huge slice of pie called life that make us unique and we should embrace them. No one is “normal” or “regular” in the eyes of “society” and I think that no one should strive to be normal or regular in life.

I am not a Kanye West fan but he has a quote which flitters into my mind every now and then. He said, “Someone will always be prettier. Someone will always be smarterSomeone will always be younger. But they will never be you.” It just makes you come to the realization that you are really, truly, undeniably unique in every single way. The world does not need uniformity, especially with character and personality with regard to its inhabitants. What the world needs and has thrived on for years is the individualizing quality of the human beings that inhabit it.

So, if you have that little peculiarity that makes people see you as eccentric or weird or unusual, remember that your idiosyncrasies make you you and the world is in need of that burst of flavor that you have.

By: Maameee

What a time to be alive…

500 million amazing wildlife species killed by Australian bush fires… Check

World War 3 scares… Check

Plane crashes… Check

Impeachment trial… Check

Covid-19, Stock Market Crash, 2020 Olympics cancelled, Sporting events cancelled, Unemployment spikes, Shooting sprees, Cyclones, violent protests, instances of racism, George Floyd’s murder, more than 370,000 people dead, cases of the deadly Ebola virus springing up, earthquakes in multiple countries… and the list goes on and on. All these events have occurred within a seemingly long space of five months. Five horribly depressing, dreary, nerve-wrecking, gloomy months.

It’s not that these things don’t happen or have never happened. I feel as though everyone is anxious and bothered simply because all these things are happening within a short time frame without any breathing space.

Every article I have read since 1st January, 2020 has left a hint of sourness in my mouth or has filled me to the brim with anxiety. I still check the news, scrolling through the articles quickly hoping to avoid seeing another devastating bit of news.

Despite the gloomy start of this year, I still maintain the fact that this era is the best time to be alive. Just think about it. We have SpaceX, Apple, Samsung and Huawei giving us the best technology has to offer. We see AI robots doing jobs that were previously dangerous for humans to do (though they are “stealing” people’s jobs) and we’ve seen medicine and technology merge in incredible ways, breaking and superseding the understanding and myopic human views on limits. Its,… Its… AMAZING!

No one can convince me that the ‘good ole days’ were … The good old days. Imagine dying from infections and diseases simply because it wasn’t easy to be diagnosed. Imagine a world with no pain medication, no anesthesia, no phones, no WiFi, no electricity, no gas, no industrialization. Simply thinking about it is maddening.

So some people might argue that climate change, extinction of rare and invaluable species, cyber fraud, increased crime and new diseases are as a result of all these changes in our advanced, dynamic world. I must admit that those are very valid points but unfortunately, they cannot hold a candle to the points supporting the new era that we are living in.

There is no doubt that technology has done more good than bad and we need to focus on that aspect as often as possible.

By: Maameee

25.06.20.